Speaking seriously, would anyone here who identify themselves as heterosexual settle with a partner of the same gender in this kind of situation? I'm fairly sure this would be a deal-breaker for me.

Darkagma said:

Speaking seriously, would anyone here who identify themselves as heterosexual settle with a partner of the same gender in this kind of situation? I'm fairly sure this would be a deal-breaker for me.

I mean, bisexuality and demisexuality are both things that exist, so at that point, you'd probably figure that your sexual preferences were broader than you thought.

Darkagma said:

Speaking seriously, would anyone here who identify themselves as heterosexual settle with a partner of the same gender in this kind of situation? I'm fairly sure this would be a deal-breaker for me.

Sometimes, it turns out heterosexuality is not neccessarily what you are, just what you were told you were. That's a fairly big difference, and one difficult to find out if there's no prompt.

kanamechan2 said:

Sometimes, it turns out heterosexuality is not neccessarily what you are, just what you were told you were. That's a fairly big difference, and one difficult to find out if there's no prompt.

Teenaged girls are a whole lot less certain about their sexuality then boys are. I can think of a bunch of reasons about why that's the case.
Mainly how lad culture revolves for a large part about getting laid (obviously with females) and gayness is somewhat synonimous for weakness, althout that latter sentiment seems to be fading with the times. Having to go through that seemingly endless highschool circlejerk "not being into women" is something that tends to quickly becomes obvious to your own self, if not others, because you're constantly exposed to it, whether you want to or not.

Girls on the other hand obviously have a rather different school culture and tend to idolize rather than sexualize ( think the posters that that are found in teenagers rooms ) which makes establishing sexual identity somewhat more difficult. They also have to contend with the timeless concept of "sluttiness" and the resulting ostracization that comes with showing any kind of active interest in sexuality. An unfortunate mix of peer pressure and self-repression, or so the books told me. This gets better as getting older means you start living by your own rules, but i guess for some people it never really goes away.

TL:DR high school girls have it hard. Also Japan, which is another can of worms entirely.

Darkagma said:

Speaking seriously, would anyone here who identify themselves as heterosexual settle with a partner of the same gender in this kind of situation? I'm fairly sure this would be a deal-breaker for me.

If you've thought about it carefully, and identify as heterosexual, no. But a significant portion of people who identify as heterosexual only do so because they assumed it as the default and never really thought about it carefully

A lot people only go with the "default" their told because they don't know anything else and/or they don't try anything else. Folks are told homosexuality is gross so they avoid it. End of the line for them.
But personally, for me at least, I think it's more important to love your partner for them. Loving them wholeheartedly for them. Their speech, their personality, their actions. Worrying about gender is just too much work. You should find someone you love and can be with openly. Does it REALLY matter if they're a different gender or the same? Is heteronormality really that important?

[deleted]